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If one (or more) dog has resided in your home for awhile, and you plan to introduce another dog into the family — like a puppy — then at some point you are likely to sense some jealousy or have some issues with dog aggression.
It happened in our home!
This is natural — primarily because the dogs’ instinctual pack behavior comes into play and a hierarchy must be established as to who is the “lead dog” (Alpha), the “second in command” (Beta), and so on down to the “lowest ranking dog” (Omega).
Here’s what you need to know before bringing another dog into your home… (This is what worked for us.)
If there was only one dog in the home before, then the new dog will quickly learn that the older dog is the big cheese around here.
The older dog calls the shots as to what the new dog can do, what toys he can play with, what food he can eat, when he can receive pets from you and others, when it’s time to play, etc.
For the most part, this all happens naturally, and without incident — especially when you’re dealing with an older dog “teaching” a younger dog how things are to be done.
You see, every time you add a new dog into the mix, the “dog hierarchy” must be completely restructured in order to accommodate all dogs that are currently in the home.
My Experience With Dog Aggresion
In our case, we already had 2 dogs.
The 16-year-old American Eskimo male (“Jersey”) had clearly determined his place as the “big cheese” when we introduced a new male puppy (“Destin”) into our home 2 years earlier.
For the most part, that introduction and transition went well. The puppy accepted his role as “second fiddle” in relation to the older dog’s status. There were no major incidents.
However, 3 years later, we introduced a third puppy into the mix (another male, “Tenor”) and we immediately saw some dominant/aggressive behaviors that we knew we needed to gain control of early.
The middle dog (“Destin”), who until now had been the submissive one, immediately assumed the role of “leader of the pack”. This was primarily due to the fact that the eldest dog (“Jersey”) was completely aloof to the whole idea of having another dog in the family. Jersey wasn’t taking any kind of leadership role in this dog pack, so Destin stepped up to the plate to do it.
As a result, this completely changed the dog hierarchy in our home. The tricky part came when Destin had to learn just how far he could go with his new-found pack privileges.
Establishing Rules & Boundaries Between Dogs
Early on, it was clear that both Jersey and Tenor accepted their inferior status to Destin’s “leader of the pack” mentality. But sometimes Destin took it too far with the new little puppy (“Tenor”), and he appeared to more or less be bullying the little guy.
Older dogs recognize the puppy as an infant. They will discipline the youngster until they can’t take it anymore. That’s when the tolerance level drops and aggression escalates. —Dr. Jo Ann Eurell, DVM
Since Destin is has always been a gentle, sweet and very good-natured Black Lab/Golden Retriever mix, these rare bouts with aggression troubled us greatly. They seemed to be largely unprovoked, and never centered around the same thing (be it food, bed, toys, or affection).
We struggled for a few weeks as to whether or not this was a food aggression problem (because sometimes it happened around food) or purely a dominance issue (because it was never clear when or where Destin would “turn it on”).
In the end, the aggression Destin displayed toward the new puppy seemed to be primarily a release of pent-up frustration for him. It was as if he had taken on such a huge responsibility as the “middle dog” who had to become the “big dog” and keep all other dogs in line 24/7.
Dogs are always happier not to have to be pack leaders.
— Ron Hines, DVM PhD
Destin simply had to learn that he could turn it off sometimes. That it was okay if he was sleeping while the other dogs were playing. That he didn’t need to look out for and “protect” the other dogs all the time. And that he was still loved unconditionally, despite having this new dog in the house.
Here’s How We All Learned To Get Along
From the beginning, once Destin (the middle dog) established himself as the leader of the pack, we acknowledged his status by:
- Always rewarding him first (when doling out treats to the dogs)
- Greeting him first (when we’d come home and 3 dogs wanted love & hugs from us immediately)
- Feeding him first (at the dogs’ meal times)
- Giving him a bath first (when all dogs needed a good cleaning)
- Repeatedly praising him for even the smallest of actions on his part that were POSITIVE in relation to the other dog(s)
Once Destin was clear of our undying love for him, despite the addition of this new puppy, he seemed to lighten up a bit. Eventually, Destin started “playing” more with Tenor, rather than just “babysitting” him.
If an aggressive encounter should occur, do not grab the puppy up and scream and yell at the adult dog. This will only add to the resentment of the adult dog toward the puppy. The adult dog’s “feelings” about the new pup will be determined by how the owners react when they must discipline the newcomer. — Flat-Coated Retriever Society of America
Today, these 2 dogs are pretty much best buddies.
They still have their issues on occasion, because they both have dominant personalities, and they’re both males. But for the most part, they get along, and there’s nothing better than watching them “jaw” at each other for hours — in between the times when the little guy dives head-first into Destin’s furry belly and they begin playing rolly-polly and hugging games. It’s priceless!
Facts About Dominance In Dogs
According to Barbara Nibling, author of A Behavioral View on Dog Aggression, here are some things you need to know about dog dominance aggression:
- Intact males are more likely to exhibit dominance aggression than neutered males or females.
- Females who show aggression before puberty and who are spayed become more aggressive.
- Dominance aggression and protective aggression are the #1 and #2 causes of treatment by behaviorists.
- Protective aggression is stimulated by sudden movements.
- Dominance aggression is likely controlled by androgen and runs in family lines.
- Dominance aggression occurs overwhelmingly in males (90% of cases).
Please remember this, if you don’t remember anything else: Once a dog has reached dominant status, punishment cannot be used to correct a dominant aggressive dog! The trainer may make the dog revert to a submissive-aggressive or defensive-aggressive animal, and the dog may respond to that person out of fear, but it will never be trustworthy around others — even family members. The most that may be accomplished is to reduce the frequency and severity of the aggressive acts. With biting dogs, humane euthanasia is often the kindest form of treatment. Biting animals often go from home to home and lead a life of fear and severe, inhumane punishment. —A Dog Owner’s Guide To Canine Aggression
More About Aggressive Dogs
In addition to the links I’ve included above, here are some other resources to help you resolve whatever dog aggression issues you might be having:
- Adding A Second Dog
- Who’s The Boss In Your Household?
- Aggressive Dog Behaviors: What To Look For
- Older Dog Is Too Protective Of Puppy
- Is My Dog Playing Or Being Aggressive?
- Aggressive Dog Training Tips
- Dogs Don’t Always Get Along
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